How an Embarrassing Prospecting Moment Saved My Business… – Online Marketing Coach

How an Embarrassing Prospecting Moment Saved My Business…

Have you ever written or received a message like this?


Guess what…I wrote that message! How embarrassing is that?!

​You wouldn’t believe what I did until just recently to build my network marketing business. 

See, at first we do all these cheesy things like creating creepy lists, spending hours on spammy social media posts, talking to everyone with a pulse about our business...

​And we come to regret it later ‘cause we feel slimy and fake, we get rejected and ignored!

Which begs the question...

How are you suppose to build your business, without coming of too salesy?

How are you going to build a team without cold calling?

​And most importantly, how are you suppose to use social media to market your business, without getting blocked by your friends and family?

To help answer these questions, I'm going to share with you a simple online recruiting strategy to help you build your business online, rejection free, without feeling or doing any of those embarrassing and awkward tactics ever again!!

For instant access to this simple online recruiting strategy, click here:

Matter of fact, you never going to have to chase after anybody again, people are going to chase after you!

But first, let me tell you a quick story…

​My life took a crazy detour into the world of entrepreneurship when I entered the Network Marketing arena. 

I’ve experienced deep personal development, met intelligent, successful leaders in the industry, and my eyes opened to something I didn’t even know was an option.

But I also got introduced to the negativity that surrounds this industry which no human should ever endure! 

Getting ignored by friends and family was just the start...

The good news is that a little more than a year ago my journey hit a major turning point…

​Where it all started: Me at NES8 with two of my mentors

Like most Network Marketers, I joined a MLM company mainly to provide a second income…

​Pay off some of our credit card debt, eventually QUIT my job, finally have the time and financial FREEDOM to travel the world with my husband...

​More importantly, be able to visit our family that resides in South Africa, whenever we want, not just when we can! 

The products were great, the ‘plan’ looked solid and the company was obviously very successful…(or at least that’s what google told me)

In fact, everything went really well…for about a minute!

See, my journey was not without many fumbles, embarrassing moments and more prospecting faux pas that I care to share and I hope and pray my friends, family and strangers I attempted to prospect have long forgotten the things I did.

But here’s a few, so you have an idea...

Have you ever invited friends to a coffee date and very ‘unsmoothly’ transitioned to showing ’the plan,' explaining to a very annoyed crowd how they cannot miss out on this ground breaking opportunity?

I have…

​Have you ever tried prospecting your barista, while there’s a mile-long line behind you, and have him respond with “Is this one of those MLM things?”

I have…worst part, I now pay full price for my coffee every morning!! Oi…

Here’s a good one…

​Have you ever messaged someone you haven’t spoken to in 15 years, asked them to take a look at this ‘never in a life time’ opportunity, only to have them block or ignore your attempts to contact them ever again?

Sadly, this has happened too…not looking forward to my next High School reunion…

And that’s about as much as I’ll reveal, because I’m starting to get really depressed remembering all this right now. 

​The point is, I’m about to cast some heavy stones at some networkers, but I just wanted to let you know that I’ve made huge mistakes too and I still make mistakes...

​But that doesn’t mean we should be going easy on those that are committing some MAJOR prospecting mistakes when recruiting with social media.

The thing is, and it’s something people fail to remember…

The Internet Never Forgets and It’s Ruining It for Everyone Else

​I once heard that success in business is all about ‘time’ and ‘place’.

A professional marketer told me to add ‘message’ to the equation as well.

Unfortunately, network marketers today are being taught online prospecting methods, which include the wrong message, at the wrong time and most definitely in all the wrong places!

Here’s the truth!

There is a VERY fine line between recruiting with social media and spamming people.

I'm sorry to say that most network marketers (myself included) have been turned into human spambots by their upline and company leaders…

‘Disposable distributors’ tasked with the job of spreading the word about their company’s products or opportunity, at the expense of the individual’s reputation and risking the suspension of their social media accounts.

Remember the screen shot I shared with you at the beginning of this post? Here are some more examples of the WRONG WAY to prospect on Social Media…

Successful entrepreneurs and networkers alike eventually learn the true secret to success and it becomes the foundation upon which their entire prospecting, recruiting and business building strategy is founded.

That secret being:

“People don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care” – Theodore Roosevelt

​The screenshots above are weak prospecting attempts from people (myself included) who haven’t yet figured out that building a business is not about tricking people or finding the right copy/paste FB messages to send to strangers.

It’s about actually caring about people, becoming a person of value and being someone uniquely positioned to help someone with their problems.

That last one is critical:

“uniquely positioned to help someone with their problems.”

Anyone can copy and paste a message into the Messenger function on Facebook.

What sets you apart from the rest of the desperate reps hitting people’s inboxes with their new “ground floor” opportunities or cash programs?

Now this doesn’t mean, prospecting online doesn’t work.

I know and have worked with some very skilled recruiters who are excellent at online prospecting, but just like offline prospecting, they’ve devoted the time and effort to learn this very difficult skill and have mastered it.

And if that’s the strategy you want to deploy, you need to do it right...or else!

But if you’re still a little fuzzy on whether you are a spammer or not, here’s a guide of sorts.

Top 5 Warning Signs That Your Prospecting Efforts are Actually SPAM

1) You first private message to a stranger on social media includes a link to join your opportunity.

2) You get angry replies via private messaging and/or you have been reported as a spammer.

3) You post links to your opportunity or website in the comments section of other people’s social media posts

4) You compulsively want to talk about your company or products, without anyone asking you to share.

Finally… this one is the most important one…

5) You engage in interactions online, with a hidden agenda, hoping to transition the topic to something that would get people interested in your opportunity, without caring about knowing the other person.

This last one for me is a big one but could also be controversial.

After all, #5 is the very definition of prospecting (online or offline), which even when done right… can still feel awkward, result in people getting angry at you, which is why I eventually decided to stop prospecting all together.

But here’s the interesting thing…

“When I Stopped Prospecting People, My Business Started Growing!”

I can’t tell you how relieved and at peace I felt, when I once again, was able to go out with my friends, visiting a family member’s home or be in a public place without having to think about prospecting anyone.

Just enjoying being normal again was incredible, especially after being taught by my upline that “everyone was a prospect” and approaching every conversation with a hidden agenda. I was free! 

That’s because it wasn’t until I STOPPED prospecting, that my business actually started growing!

For instant access to this simple online recruiting strategy, click here:

Weird, right?

​At this point, you may be asking, “then how the heck are you growing your business?”

Well, before I answer that, I have to say that there are people who are very skilled prospectors and recruiters, who completely disregard the issues I mentioned above.

They approach every interaction with a person in a 3-foot radius as a prospecting opportunity.

Getting ignored and blocked by family and friends or yelled at and cursed out by strangers is no big deal, as long as some people say ‘yes.’ Right?

Nope, I decided that I didn’t want to build my business this way.

The problem with prospecting in general, as it’s normally taught, is that the mindset going in, is still about what YOU want people to do and about manipulating people into doing what you want them to do.

In other words, it’s about YOU, not them.

I didn’t like that, so I found a better way.

The More Leveraged Alternative to 1-on-1 Prospecting, Which Won’t Make You Feel Like a Cheap Sales Man

Now, I am not trying to be high and mighty about all this prospecting stuff, because I’m not.

If it came down to feeding my family with ‘stone cold’ prospecting tactics or my kids starving, I choose stone cold prospecting every time, without remorse.

But the reason I was able to quit prospecting was because, with the help of some extraordinary mentors, I learned an online recruiting strategy, which…

Enabled me to passively generate leads, customers and new reps – even when I was out having fun with my friends and family.

(Hence why I didn’t have to worry about prospecting them!)

Visiting family in South Africa 2017

Rather than spending hours spamming or private messaging people on social media, I learned how to legitimately get social media networks to actually help me attract the people who are most interested in what I have to offer, using their ads platform! (i.e. going legit!)

I can’t tell you the relief and joy I felt that first morning I woke to a mail box full of notifications from new leads…I mean, what??? 

Suddenly I was generating leads while I was sleeping by applying a simple online recruiting strategy called Attraction Marketing, which is an internet marketing strategy designed for networkers and people in direct sales!

You see, if your business depends on you being on social media, sending private messages or commenting on people’s posts all day, you are NOT doing internet marketing… despite what you may have been led to believe.

Online prospecting and internet marketing is NOT the same thing!

Internet marketing is a passive strategy, which works, even when you are not.

Now remember I said a little more than a year ago everything changed...

Well, it all started with enrolling into a Free 10-day Online Recruiting Bootcamp.

For instant access to this Free 10-day online recruiting Bootcamp, click here:

Now if traditional prospecting online or offline is your thing and you want to stick to that, by all means, go for it.

There are many top trainers and earners in the industry that focus on cold market recruiting skills…

(And they do ‘attraction marketing’ too!)

For me, there was simply a certain way I wanted to live my life and that was more important.

I would much rather make a ton of money in my business first and then have my friends and family beg me to tell them more about it.

It’s much better than begging my friends and family to join a business which isn’t making any money.

Which would you prefer?


Click here for more info about the FREE Online Recruiting Bootcamp.

Till we meet again!



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About the Author Annelie Du Plessis

Annelie's entrepreneurial journey started in the Network Marketing Arena where she quickly became aware of the benefits in growing her business online via social media. Through the guidance of amazing and successful leaders in this industry, she came to realize her passion for leading and developing other driven, hardworking network marketers and home based business entrepreneurs, into the modern era of Online Business Building. Reach out to Annelie if you want to know how you can build your business more efficiently and effectively using online tools and strategies.

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Brianne says September 2, 2019

Hi, very nice website, cheers!

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